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FOR THE MARRIED, DO READ PLEASE.

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FOR THE MARRIED, DO READ PLEASE.

In your marriage, you will realise that at various times you would have to choose either to blame or to forgive. Things will not always go the right way and as a result, there will be errors, shortcomings and sometimes setbacks.

When things go wrong your spouse may already be feeling uncomfortable. These feelings are usually very unpleasant. If you are not sensitive to the feelings of your spouse at such times, you might still apportion blame and responsibility for error.

Errors or mistakes are bad enough in themselves, so when you blame, accuse, condemn or criticize, you expand and deepen the wound that your spouse is already feeling. You blame with your words, thoughts or actions.

Blame connotes rejection. You see, it doesn’t matter how careful you are, you will both make mistakes. A good way to help each other at such times is to speak words and act in ways that are full of love and faith. Do not judge your spouse, it will only worsen matters. Instead of nagging, murmuring or complaining, consciously affirm, stand by and encourage.

Assume joint responsibility. Stop and think about it, how would you like to be treated when you miss it? Do the same to your spouse. The mistakes we make are not that bad, the way and manner in which we handle them matter a lot more. So be prepared and the next time your spouse makes a mistake, do not denounce him/her, but support and standby him/her and watch as God will help you to redeem the cost.

I don’t know what God is doing in your life and in your marriage, but I pray that even though He may be crushing you like grapes, or pouring you out like wine, or stretching you like a bow and arrow, or is taking you through a time when you cannot see and the strain of it is more than you think you can stand at times — I pray you will trust Him because you know His heart.

I pray that if God uses your spouse to say something to you, and even if it is said in a way that repulses or enrages you —even then you will trust yourself in God’s hands and pay attention to the “right” that may be hidden within the wrong way that your spouse is presenting it.

Currently reading a book by Stormie Omartian and she wrote something in this powerful book, “Praying Through the Deeper Issues of Marriage” that may help us if we heed what she is saying. She wrote: “We have to get to the point in our marriage where we live with a repentant heart all the time. A heart that says ‘I am willing to see my errors, and no matter how I have been offended by the things my spouse has done, I will clean house on my own soul. I will pray to have eyes to see the truth about myself before I pray the same for my husband (wife).” Lord, please open the eyes of our hearts that we may see you. “Search me O God and know my heart, test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me and lead me in the way everlasting” (Psalm 139:23-24).
BEAUTIFUL NIGHT SISTERS!

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