Hold you head up high Sisters of mine- WE ARE SURVIVORS!
Hard truth I told myself daily as a single girl years ago. “At some point Nky, you will realize that you have done too much for someone, that the only next possible step to do is to stop. Leave them alone. Walk away(which was tough). It’s not like you’re giving up, and it’s not like you shouldn’t try. It’s just that you have to draw the line of DETERMINATION from DESPERATION. What is truly yours will eventually be yours, and what is not, no matter how hard you try, will never be.” FINITO!
Leave with your integrity intact. When people make you feel unwanted, don’t leave to make them feel sad or guilty, because they won’t! Leave because you no longer have a reason to stay. Sometimes you have to be strong for yourself. What’s meant to be will end up good and what’s not – won’t. Love is worth fighting for, but sometimes you can’t be the only one fighting. At times, people need to fight for you. If they don’t, you just have to move on and realize what you gave them was more than they were willing to give you*. Despite all that, strive to still LOVE. Just give love but wisely this time.
Patricia Buckley was asked how she holds her head up so high after all she’s been through. She said, “it’s because no matter what, I am a survivor. Not a victim”. Choose today, not to be a victim! Don’t allow your life be thrown in a trash bin. Don’t live to impress people who don’t even care about you. Don’t give them that space to continue to control your life or your destiny. Don’t spend one more day wasting your life holding on to the past and to people who add nothing to you.
Maya Angelou sums it all up in her quote, “I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life. I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
My dear Sisters! Yes we can! Happy new month my sweethearts. This month shall indeed be great. Let’s all be expectant. Double wonders and all round peace, joy unspeakable full of double wonders!